So we hear all the time we should make a list about what we want in a spouse. I agree with that logic. I don’t think it’s necessary for everyone but for some of us, it’s a good idea to have one just in case you need to go back and remind yourself what it is you’re looking for in a mate. In the process of waiting, however, I do believe you should strive to be what the mate you’re looking for is looking for.
And as we know, in singlehood, sometimes you hit those stale points. You start forgetting how fabulous you are. How you have something to offer. When you’re in that state, I suggest you make a list. I did this not too long ago. Sometimes, you can be surrounded by so many relationships that it begins to mess with your mind. You start wondering if you’re beautiful enough, smart enough, talented enough, etc. The self loathing continues.
When you feel like that, grab a pen and paper and write down at least ten positive things about yourself. I guarantee you that when you start, you’ll have more than ten. You will feel so much better and realize that this is just a season. Yes, the Lord will continue to shape and mold us as much as we allow him to do. But, he has already created you as a wonderful human being and you should not let a little self doubt rob you of that realization.
Here are some things I jotted down on my own list….
1. I love the Lord and I allow him to work in my life
2. I am an intelligent woman
3. I have a great smile
4. I can speak more than one language.
5. I have touched three continents
6. I’m short which is great cause I love tall men
7. I have great style
8. I am an avid reader
9. I love to laugh
10. I love to dance
And as we know, in singlehood, sometimes you hit those stale points. You start forgetting how fabulous you are. How you have something to offer. When you’re in that state, I suggest you make a list. I did this not too long ago. Sometimes, you can be surrounded by so many relationships that it begins to mess with your mind. You start wondering if you’re beautiful enough, smart enough, talented enough, etc. The self loathing continues.
When you feel like that, grab a pen and paper and write down at least ten positive things about yourself. I guarantee you that when you start, you’ll have more than ten. You will feel so much better and realize that this is just a season. Yes, the Lord will continue to shape and mold us as much as we allow him to do. But, he has already created you as a wonderful human being and you should not let a little self doubt rob you of that realization.
Here are some things I jotted down on my own list….
1. I love the Lord and I allow him to work in my life
2. I am an intelligent woman
3. I have a great smile
4. I can speak more than one language.
5. I have touched three continents
6. I’m short which is great cause I love tall men
7. I have great style
8. I am an avid reader
9. I love to laugh
10. I love to dance
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